Simplicity Funerals Grief Resources: Suggested Reading
Suggested Reading: Dealing With Grief & Loss
This is a partial list of books about coping with the loss of a loved one. There are also many other books on this topic available at your public library or bookstore, or your clergy or counselor may be able to suggest additional reading materials.
- Andrew, You Died Too Soon
by Corinne Chilstrom - published by Augsburg Fortress (1993); In the most simple, straightforward language, this mother tells the heart's story: the love for her son which had to continue without that son; the embrace of speechless grief and of a murmuring, speaking community; the deep, spiritual events that occurred for her and her family when one son took his life.
- Don't Take My Grief Away From Me
by Doug Manning - published by In-Sight Books (1979); A warm, consoling, practical guidance to help the bereaved cope with emotions, confront decisions, and learn to live again. Gently, with warm, consoling, and practical guidance, Doug Manning addresses the painful, often disorientation aftermath of the death of a loved one, helping the bereaved cope with the emotions and confront the decisions that are an inevitable part of this time of radical life adjustment. He helps readers face up to grief, move through it, and learn to live again. The author provides thoughtful advice for rebuilding a grief-shattered life while taking to heart the valuable lessons death and mourning impart to everyone.
- FatherLoss; How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Their Dads
by Neil Chethik; Hyperion Press
- Healing a Parent's Grieving Heart; 100 Practical Ideas After Your Child Dies
by Alan Wolfelt; Companion Press
- Helping Children Cope With Grief
by Alan Wolfelt - published by Accelerated Development, Inc. (1983); This book is written for parents, teachers, and counselors who have both a desire and a commitment to help children when they experience a death.
- How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies
by Therese A. Rando - published by Lexington Books (1988); Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through at one time or another. But wherever the death is sudden or anticipated, few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no way around the pain of loss, but there is a way through it. Each person's response to loss will be different. In this compassionate, comprehensive guide, your are lead gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps you find the best way for yourself. It offers help to anyone who has survived the pain of this kind of loss and is trying to adjust to a new world without their loved one.
- How To Survive The Loss Of A Love
by Colgrove, Bloomfield, McWilliams - published by Prelude Press (1991); One of the most directly helpful books on the subject of loss ever written, it helps one to cope up with life's worst encounters. It provides support for anyone who is experiencing grief related to a loss, including the death of a loved one and the breakup of a relationship. A nice thing about this book is its unique, easy-to-read format: the chapters are written in outline form, and each chapter is just 1-2 pages long and printed on the left-hand sides of the pages only. The right-hand side pages contain poems, quotes, and sayings offering comfort as well as inspiration. This book will help you to feel that you are not along as you begin to cope with your loss.
- I Can't Stop Crying: It's So Hard When Someone You Love Dies
By John D. Martin and Frank Ferris, MD. Foreword by Robert Buckman, MD, PhD. This down-to-earth book was written for individuals who are recently bereaved of someone very close to them -- typically a partner, though messages have very wide application. A narrator guides the flow as over fifty people tell their stories as examples for the reader to relate to. Grief counselors may want to consider this book to give to clients who ask the question "Do you have anything I can read?"
- Living Through Mourning
by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff; Penguin Books
- Making Loss Matter: Creating Meaning in Difficult Times
by Rabbi David Wolpe; Riverhead Books
- Seven Choices
by Elizabeth Harper Neeld, Ph.D. - published by Delta )1990)
In this ground-breaking book, Elizabeth Harper Neeld describes the steps each of us can take to find a new balance for our lives after experiencing death, divorce, illness, as well as grief, loss and change of any kind. This book maps the complete grieving and change process and provides a way to respond to change by identifying seven positive choices that lead to a "new normal." These positive choices bring healing and stability and show how to avoid getting stuck in mourning, anger, bitterness and sadness.
- Song of Joy - A Guide to Recovery from Sorrow
by Brenda Layman - published by AuthorHouse (2006); "It doesn't have to be easy, it just has to be possible." These are the words Brenda Layman spoke when she determined to heal her life after the suicide of her fourteen-year-old daughter. Brenda's journey led her from the depths of grief to a new understanding of the power we have to minister to one another and to help bring about healing in even the most painful circumstances.
- The Bereaved Parent
by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff - published by Penguin Books (1977); This is the classic book for parents whose child has died - and for all those who want to help them. Many such parents feel that no one can help because no one can understand the complex ramifications of their tragedy, the exhaustion, the quarrels with mates, the sleeplessness, the panic, the inertia, the horror of laughter - all the seemingly endless aftermath of sorrow and despair. Yet, because she herself is a bereaved parent, the author is able to give genuine comfort. If you have lost a child, you know that pain like yours cannot be erased, and she does not attempt to do so. Instead, she offers guidelines and practical step-by-step suggestions to help you cope with every stage. Her book will convince you that you, too, can find your way back to the land of the living.
- The Courage To Grieve
by Judy Tatelbaum - published by Harper & Row (1980); This unusual self-help book about surviving grief offers comfort, inspiration, and provides the specific help we need to enable us to face our grief fully and to recover and grow from the experience. The author gives us a fresh look at understanding grief, showing us that grief is a natural, inevitable human experience, including all the unexpected, intense and uncomfortable emotions like sorrow, guilt, loneliness, resentment, confusion, or even the temporary loss of the will to live. The emphasis is to clarify and offer help, and the tone is spiritual, optimistic, creative and easy to understand. She provides excellent advice on how to help oneself and others get through the immediate experience of death and the grief that follows, as well as how to understand the special grief of children. Particularly useful are the techniques for completing or "finishing" grief--counteracting the popular misconception that grief never ends. The Courage to Grieve shows us how to live life with the ultimate courage: not fearing death. This book is about so much more than death and grieving - it is about life and joy and growth.
- The Grief Recovery Handbook
by James & Friedman - published by HarperCollins (1998)
Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on your capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories, as well as from others, the authors illustrate what grief is and how it is possible to recover, regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven program, this life-changing handbook offers the specific actions needed to complete the grieving process and accept the loss.
- Understanding, Coping, and Growing Through Grief
By Collection of Authors - published by HOPE FOR BEREAVED, 4500 Onandaga Blvd., Syracuse, NY 13219 (1995); A book of helpful articles written by bereaved people for bereaved people and those who want to help them. A superb gift to give to bereaved; helpful to have on hand for resource library.
- Understanding Grief
by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt - published by Accelerated Development Inc. (1992); A compassionate guide to coping with the death of someone loved, this book helps bereaved people move toward healing by encouraging them to explore their unique journeys into grief and mourning. Throughout, readers are sked specific questions about their grief journeys and encouraged to think about and write down their responses. For support group leaders, the book also includes a nine-session support group model that draws on the earlier chapters in the book for readings and writing exercises.
- What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies?
by Trevor Romain, Free Spirit Publishing; (Note: Written for children; appropriate for everyone)
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